Can't quite remember if it was a New Year's resolution or a birthday when I decided I wanted to be that person inside of me. I am still a work in progress but I am there. It's been difficult but well worth it!
I remember looking up to people that showed empathy, compassion, and honesty and thinking I wanted to be like them. But inside I knew I was... It sounded naive to promise myself I would not lie anymore. Who does that, and why? It just seemed like easy people. Simple people that glowed, and made you smile. If you think about it, it's so much easier, to be honest, reliable (trust yourself), trustworthy. Think of being efficient and wise. It is such an incentive! No one is born with integrity, it scars you beautifully and stays with you forever when you are consistent.
If I can instill those traits constantly in my life, all would be so magical! I would be so proud of myself! That is how I started, and Yes, it has not been easy but to have a goal to be the best you can be? To wake up in the morning with a smile on your face, every morning! How could this change your life? What would be your purpose in life?
Curious? Meditation, yoga, doing something bold for someone you care about. Training yourself to be trainable, can I? I just realize I have been doing this for decades and have now become the person I am. That person inside of me had bloomed beautifully. I love who I am! Was not easy initially, but now, oh my gosh!
I rarely think about it, it just is what it is, period. It is about being strong inside before it can show outside.
At Mindvalley they say: Your character is the sum total of your personality traits. It’s who you are inside but it determines who you are outside. For example, in 1726, at the age of 20, Benjamin Franklin created a system to develop his character. In his autobiography, Franklin listed his thirteen virtues as:
Temperance. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
Silence. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
Order. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
Resolution. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
Frugality. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
Industry. Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
Sincerity. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
Justice. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
Moderation. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
Cleanliness. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation.
Tranquillity. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
Chastity. Rarely use venery, but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
So self-discipline is not an easy task. Think of an amazing relationship, you have to have the inner strength to forgive, to support, to be there, to value what arguments are worth fighting. To have that career, there will be courage, perseverance, emotional fortitude, and again so much inner strength! Take ownership of the most important being in the universe: YOURSELF! Stay centered, be grounded, practice to get your life to the next level. It is worth it!
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